Happiness: What is it and why are we all striving for it?
Being happy is the most ubiquitous state of emotion that a lot of people have concluded is the key ingredient to make Life easier to live. The positive feeling, and its uplifting of the mind, enables one's heart to feel lighter and to share the positivity with others—a charitable act of contribution to which societal progress, as well as one's individualistic desires, can commence without any trouble ("spread the love," as people would say). Simple enough, so what makes it difficult to get? What are the benefits of acquiring happiness? Why are some people struggling to earn it?
There are ways one can acquire and achieve happiness, such that any of the following are pursued: Earning a stable job, being surrounded by family and friends, nostalgia, being in a relationship (marrying the one you love), doing what you love doing, helping the less fortunate, cleaning the environment, artistry (painting, making films, creating music, etc), listening to happy/uplifting music, continuous learning/studying (acquiring new knowledge), making/fixing things, interactive hobbies (i.e. video gaming)...the list continues. The fate of one's life solely depends on their individual choices of where they seek the most satisfaction, via personal experience or the influence(s) of others, settling in such area for the rest of their lives. In other words, Happiness, from my personal perspective, starts and ends with one's self.
However, do we always have to be happy? Some folks argue that being at a neutral state is the better preference for a stable life—not bitter, not overtly happy, just emotionally balanced. That's under the assumption that no obstacles and no negative vibes are holding back one's state, and if any disruptions do come about, the individual ought to handle it. In such case, it's the false promotion, shared frequently on social media, that led us to this near-difficult achievement perceived as 'superficial' for one's personal agenda—it feels like working another job. Saying that, does one ever get "tired" of being happy? I pose such question to those rare individuals who live with the simple philosophy that "life is fun." Although my questioning would lead me to the presumptuous critique from other people that I advocate nihilistic pessimism, or that Life is a deterministic bore, I often ponder what it takes to be continuously happy, especially moments that include heart-hitting events that often weigh us down. Maybe they're sending a message, to not let anything, or anyone, push you down and to keep your chin up; Take those downfalls as a life experience, and something you learned from. (Some learn better than others.)
Given that most people, during this pandemic, has led them to do some self-reflecting, it was a simple topic of discussion I had to bring up. I mean, how many times have you survived in your pursuit of happiness, given all the pitfalls you went through, and the awful people who ruined your path? How does someone deal with the death of a loved one? Besides having the worst heartaches from girls whom I [thought I] really loved in the past, it all paled in comparison to losing some of my family members and relatives. Realizing the physical loss of a loved one, knowing they're not there to share and experience life's moments with you, shades away any particles that remind me to be happy. Through the stages of grief, the dark clouds eventually give way to acceptance, and thus happiness can be attained again. Even if we grew up and have been led to believe that our loved ones are in a clear, brisk universe where all the pain and negative emotions are nonexistent, the reality and the pain lingers for the rest of our lives. What I'm trying to say is a lot of folks who experience common downfalls—situations that affect all of us at a certain point—take it as a Life lesson and learn from them differently, and because we can't grow unless something happens, we as humans will never know until we experience it.
This notion of happiness also has a misperception in the case of "doing what you love." If this involves slandering others because their religious, social and political beliefs don't match with yours, it's something one can't be proud of doing. These people in touch with me, who have expressed this behavioral pattern for years, haven't yet come to terms of where they're headed, let alone making their mark/stance in this society. Just because someone's beliefs are different from yours, doesn't mean they're a bad person; Just because someone's life is going well doesn't make your life meaningless; And just because someone is 'silent' doesn't mean they're not going through struggles (some folks don't feel the need to share what goes on with themselves online anyway). Thinking in a way like "if you don't think like I do, we can't be friends," to me, seems to scratch onto the surface of insecurity. Look at it: Someone is walking their own pathway, and another person has a problem with it, given their pathway isn't like theirs (expecting that their pathway deserves to be like everyone else's). I believe insecurity extracts unhappiness in others, and while there's a plethora of reasons why, it is likely that the negativity was targetted wrongly or cowardly into their mindsets, pushing them down to where they are. Then again, one doesn't have to live with that negative energy and can fight it off or avoid it. While it sounds like a rough struggle for these folks makes achieving Happiness to be a never-ending battle, and if you ask me, it isn't an impossible feat to accomplish. No matter your current situation, you can achieve it.
What can a happy person learn from pessimism? My guess is that because life, and the human race, aren't going to last forever, a happy person occupies an area where they know they're able to become themselves freely without the negative-heavy charges aimed to bring them down for whatever reason. They also know, or are aware, of death—the ultimate termination of life—avoiding areas where life-threatening situations may come upon; being wary of their health status; and the possibility of partaking in violent friction among the masses, against a group of people, or against another country (law-breaking operations). I think that this happy person wouldn't withold the reality of various likelihoods, in the event that "anything can happen," and how I feel they approach this is by living in such way where the chances of any particular downfall is least likely to make itself present. Depending on the situation, some of the downfalls everyone experiences must be dealt with, and challenged head-on, regardless. This psychological mindset enables the happy person to strengthen up, plan ahead, think ahead, learn from other people's struggles, and walk their paths cautiously but intelligently. In other words, if you know the consequence(s), you'd walk, or create, your pathway(s) where you're least likely to encounter any struggles that cross your way. In the event that it does happen, and it usually does, you know what to do, and you handle this obstacle. I don't believe anyone, regardless of societal status, ought to disrupt someone else's pathway, no matter the reason. If they do so, you either detach from them, or you fight back. Currently, many people shame others for not following their actions and behavior. Individuals can base such thing by their own judgement: If doing the same thing(s) other people do doesn't bring any sort of happiness, especially if they pressure you to do it, as well as knowing the payoffs of doing so, it is best not to follow, and to continue your own path. Sadly, this triggers a lot of slander and belittling, but remember, life is experienced differently from everyone else; The battles they face and the obstacle(s) they're dealing with are tackled personally without the need for attention. What makes one person happy, given they're aware of the payoffs in the choices they've made, or will make, doesn't always mean it'll make you happy in the same way.
There's more than enough negativity out there, and those who have been sucked into this 'anti-positive' energy may be in the state where they may not be able to seek a way out (am I the only one who notices this?). At that point, they've been mind controlled, it seems. Their hard work, their independence, their pursuance of happiness, their identity, and their life goal(s) seem to all be taken away, being occupied by an entity or a figure that emits lower vibrational energy—an energy that's easier to acquire but weighs heavy. This caters to their inner emotions that "bring joy" out of being angry, expressing hatred, bitterness and general disdain among their surroundings. Personally, I don't believe this is normal, but it's an observation I had to bring up. To synonymize with quantum physics, there's a reason atomic particles magnetize with some and deflect off of others. Everyone is different, and we mesh with those we see fit. Then again, people change, much like atoms decay and electrons change positions, and we shouldn't allow a person's change to greatly, and negatively, affect our progress and pathways.
Perhaps, happiness is too much for an individual to pursue, even though its payoff is valuable. We can compare to education, where a lot of us know that being a doctor or a lawyer are high-paying jobs, but not everyone has the focus nor the interest to pursue such careers. Yet, however, almost no one wants to be in a state of negative energy, nor would give attention to entities that emit such energy nor deal with it (i.e. being unemployed).
There's so much to be said about this alleged pursuit of happiness. I feel like it's like earning a college major that you felt less confident about pursuing, but you know it will benefit you down the line: Do you need it, and if so, where will you go with it?
Maybe happiness, which does require energy, is an uphill battle but is the state of being at peace. Low vibrational energy is easy to harness, but it attains extreme mindlessness—not wanting to bring about the good to oneself, let alone others, thriving on failure and suffering, succumbing to the delusion that it's a state that they feel most "happy." Maybe one aspect is too tough to climb and get, and the other is accessible but heavy on you. Being aware of the energy and its consequences, if there are any, could give you an even-leveled path to a Life lived easily. All in all, it's the balance we hope to keep within ourselves and with those we allow to be surrounded by. Most certainly, and to conclude all I mentioned and discussed, it's being in the state of balance; It may not be considered "happiness" all together, but it feels like a happy state. No matter our odds, that's seems to be the state that feels the most lightweight.
To those who see the glass half empty: Negative energy is there as a lesson that enables us to keep our balance in this human life. Atoms, both positive and negative, exist to keep the Universe balanced. (How and why is another discussion.)
When it comes to learning life lessons, its consequences and its payoffs, I will close this with a quote from video game character Magus from Chrono Trigger. Remember this as you continue your quest for balance:
"Play with fire and you get burned! A lesson better learned sooner than later. The weak go quickly to their graves."
This is Kris speaking for Food For The Saints.